Beginning in summer 2024, we will be launching the Coming Out Autistic podcast. This will include interviews with therapists, researchers, educators, and other influential Autistic creators. We will be talking about all the things that...
About Vickie
Artist, author, and Founder of Coming Out Autistic, Vickie Flaugher is a late realized adult Autistic. She always knew something was different about her from early in life, but only recently experienced the full truth....
The Book
Upcoming Launch – 2024 Sign up now as a charter member of the Coming Out Autistic: An Adult’s Guide to Surviving Your First Year of Realization, community. You will be eligible for giveaways, early release...
Coming Out Autistic Podcast
Beginning in summer 2024, we will be launching the Coming Out Autistic podcast. This will include interviews with therapists, researchers, educators, and other influential Autistic creators. We will be talking about all the things that late realized adult Autistics care about – from special interests, stimming, safe foods, sensory management, nervous system balancing, getting a proper diagnosis, and more!
Guests do not have to be Autistic, ADHD, or AuDH, but bonus points if they are!
Do you have a favorite Autistic person you would like to hear on the show? Please fill out the form below and recommend them to us…and YES, that person can be YOU! We want to connect with exercise specialists, medical experts, artists, authors, product creators, athletes, professional leaders, and teachers.
We are open to hosting the folks you want to hear from, and we will do segments with “every day” people too. You don’t have to be famous to be considered, so please let us meet you.
Please note: The first fields on the below form are meant to be who you are recommending, not you, unless you are the person you are recommending.
About Vickie
Artist, author, and Founder of Coming Out Autistic, Vickie Flaugher is a late realized adult Autistic. She always knew something was different about her from early in life, but only recently experienced the full truth.
This truth hit hard and came with so many challenges, that Vickie decided to make her troubles into art. Thus, she started writing her book, Coming Out Autistic: An Adult’s Guide to Surviving Your First Year of Realization. (expected out in December 2023).
This book is a combination memoir and self-help manual for those called “the lost generation” – the folks who were not properly diagnosed with Autism as children. Through the painful cycles of shock, grief, rage, and sadness, to the practical actions needed to live better going forward, Vickie offers the unvarnished truth about living undiagnosed.
Please sign up for book launch updates and follow Vickie on social media.
Sign up now as a charter member of the Coming Out Autistic: An Adult’s Guide to Surviving Your First Year of Realization, community. You will be eligible for giveaways, early release specials, and a chance to meet the author, Vickie Flaugher, 1:1 during her virtual book tour.
In this true life memoir sprinkled with tips and resources like a self-help manual, follow Vickie on her emotional journey as a late realized Autistic adult. You will have a front row seat to her discovering the truth about herself, her relationships, and her life. With all the twists and turns of an Ugly Duckling fairy tale, Vickie walks you through realizing her Autism late in life, the mental and psychological impacts, and the social and individual fallout from her realization.
Autism is a genetic neurological delay condition, and there are tens of thousands of adults, like Vickie, who always knew something was different about themselves from early in life. However, due to a medical environment that overlooked people like her, the final piece of the mystery did not fall into place until her adulthood. And, when it fell in place, it landed rock hard and furiously fast.
This story includes Vickie’s experiences and point of view, as well as a brief medical history overview of Autism. She includes examples from others like her, highlighting the stunning similarity in the trauma journey many express within the Autism community. It’s not for the faint at heart, or those who prefer to live in denial of the need to pursue good mental health. If you are ready to hear the unvarnished truth, though, this book is for you.
The self-help portions of this book include ideas on how to spot Autism in yourself and others, reaching back into childhood behaviors, family relationships, school troubles, and adult employment challenges. It talks about the real and raw process of fully absorbing and accepting an Autism realization, which can be quite painful, especially in isolation. If you have ever wondered if you might be Autistic, reading this book could help you step forward toward both your truth and better health.
More than anything, for those out there in a holding pattern around this topic about themselves, this book will bring you hope. There is currently no cure or medication for Autism, but that doesn’t mean you have to continue to suffer like you have. You do not have to do this alone, because you are not actually alone. Other late realized adult Autistics have grown in self-awareness and overall well-being with the tools that are available to help you live your best life.
Lastly, the people around you will better understand you as well after they read this book, so plan on buying copies for all your friends, colleagues, and loved ones. The ones without Autism need to know the honest truth, too, and Vickie doesn’t hold back on describing what it’s like to live life as an unrealized Autistic. She puts words to the thoughts and feelings you have hidden, the thoughts and feelings that others in your life have never quite grasped, but need to know.
Sign up now to be a charter community member. You will get updates about the book launch, and qualify for goodies. You can also connect with Vickie’s Coming Out Autistic community on TikTok.
About Coming Out Autistic
There are millions of late diagnosed, late realized Autistic adults.They have lived lives disguised and disregarded, masked and unrealized, for years. Formal medical diagnosis can be difficult and expensive to get, and unwinding years of trauma, whether medically diagnosed or self-diagnosed, can be even harder. Yes, we are a “self-diagnosis is valid” safe place here.
ComingOutAutistic.com is dedicated to these Autistic adults who are looking for answers to their questions about why they are like they are. This reconciliation and healing process is hectic, confusing, yet fundamentally important to resolve, and we are here to help.
Founded by Vickie Flaugher, herself one of these millions, our goal here is to help adult Autistics survive their first year of realization around their Autism. With inspiration, resources, and compassion, we will share the stories and information that can lead these wonderful souls to better lives, better health, and better understanding.
Coming out Autistic is a process, and it includes intense emotions such as grief, rage, sadness, regret, guilt, and resentment. It can also include relief, comfort, and joy, when you finally see that it isn’t a character failing after all, but simply the unique way your particular neuro-type functions. This realization typically shakes you to your core, and it’s helpful to get input from those who have gone through it.
Through this process, you first come out to yourself, to fully unwind the paradigm you’ve been working under for years. Next, if you choose, you come out to your friends and family. After that, again, if you choose, you come out to your work colleagues. Lastly, you might choose to come out more widely in society. Like we said, though, it’s a process. A mother f’er of a process. It saves lives to know you are not alone.
To be clear this is not about “fixing” Autistics, nor curing Autism. No, completely not.
The mission here is to provide solidarity and insight in a world where Autistics are generally misunderstood. Many adult Autistics have taken the brunt of this misunderstanding by being criticized their entire lives as flaky, lazy, rude, unreliable, cold, unfeeling, scattered, broken, and worse. The inequities and abuse that many have suffered through would bring most people to their knees in despair. The information here is primarily for these Autistic adults, as they begin to navigate their lives out in the open, through their realization, and post realization.
Families and friends of adult Autistics will benefit from visiting here, too, and are welcome to engage respectfully. So many non-Autistic people (Allistics) have no clue about the internal experience this lost generation has had, and they need to know. Compassion begins at home, and Autism is genetically transferred. If you have a blood relation who has been diagnosed, the likelihood of you also being Autistic is rather high. Pay attention. It might be that this information is something you need to know, too…just saying…
About Coming Out Autistic
There are millions of late diagnosed, late realized Autistic adults.They have lived lives disguised and disregarded, masked and unrealized, for years. Formal medical diagnosis can be difficult and expensive to get, and unwinding years of trauma, whether medically diagnosed or self-diagnosed, can be even harder. Yes, we are a “self-diagnosis is valid” safe place here.
ComingOutAutistic.com is dedicated to these Autistic adults who are looking for answers to their questions about why they are like they are. This reconciliation and healing process is hectic, confusing, yet fundamentally important to resolve, and we are here to help.
Founded by Vickie Flaugher, herself one of these millions, our goal here is to help adult Autistics survive their first year of realization around their Autism. With inspiration, resources, and compassion, we will share the stories and information that can lead these wonderful souls to better lives, better health, and better understanding.
Coming out Autistic is a process, and it includes intense emotions such as grief, rage, sadness, regret, guilt, and resentment. It can also include relief, comfort, and joy, when you finally see that it isn’t a character failing after all, but simply the unique way your particular neuro-type functions. This realization typically shakes you to your core, and it’s helpful to get input from those who have gone through it.
Through this process, you first come out to yourself, to fully unwind the paradigm you’ve been working under for years. Next, if you choose, you come out to your friends and family. After that, again, if you choose, you come out to your work colleagues. Lastly, you might choose to come out more widely in society. Like we said, though, it’s a process. A mother f’er of a process. It saves lives to know you are not alone.
To be clear this is not about “fixing” Autistics, nor curing Autism. No, completely not.
The mission here is to provide solidarity and insight in a world where Autistics are generally misunderstood. Many adult Autistics have taken the brunt of this misunderstanding by being criticized their entire lives as flaky, lazy, rude, unreliable, cold, unfeeling, scattered, broken, and worse. The inequities and abuse that many have suffered through would bring most people to their knees in despair. The information here is primarily for these Autistic adults, as they begin to navigate their lives out in the open, through their realization, and post realization.
Families and friends of adult Autistics will benefit from visiting here, too, and are welcome to engage respectfully. So many non-Autistic people (Allistics) have no clue about the internal experience this lost generation has had, and they need to know. Compassion begins at home, and Autism is genetically transferred. If you have a blood relation who has been diagnosed, the likelihood of you also being Autistic is rather high. Pay attention. It might be that this information is something you need to know, too…just saying…
